What to do when you think someone you know is being physically or mentally abused? This is a four-part series.
PART II
WHAT YOU CAN DO TO GET AN ABUSED PERSON HELP?
If you are worried about someone that maybe physically or mentally abused, there are actions you can take to help. For starters:
Inform yourself. Gather all the information you can about domestic abuse. This source is a great place to start.
Call the helpline. One of the biggest myths is that a helpline is only for people experiencing abuse directly, but one of an advocate’s most important roles is to help others in the community offer real support to the survivors they know. An advocate can be an excellent source of support for both you and the person you want to help. Do not call the helpline for someone else. Call to educate yourself and find out how to be most supportive and helpful to someone who is being abused.
Ask the questions… And believe the answers. Often, people experiencing abuse are experiencing isolation and control. They are frequently told that no one really cares what happens to them, or that no one will believe them. By asking them about their experience without judgment or agenda, you are sending the message that you care about what is happening to them.
Let them know that no one deserves to be abused. Abuse is not God’s will. The Catholic Church has clearly emphasized that no person is expected to stay in an abuse marriage.
Initiating this conversation can be difficult. Some tips to help:
Say what you see: “I heard your partner yelling at you the other evening…”
Express concern: “I am worried about you.”
Show support: “No one deserves to be treated that way.”
efer them for help: “I have the phone number to the Illinois Domestic Violence helpline (877-863-6338)
Source:
www.mcedv.org How Can I Help A Friend – Brought to you by St. Hubert DV Outreach Ministry