As a Teen, Am I in an Unhealthy or Abusive Relationship?

A relationship does not have to involve physical violence to be unhealthy. Here are some additional warning signs your relationship is in trouble: 

• Controlling behaviors, such as not letting you hang out with your friends, telling you what to wear, having to be with you all the time, and calling or texting you frequently to "check up" on you.
• Verbal and emotional abuse that involves calling you names, jealousy, cutting you down, and threatening to hurt you or a family member if you don't do what they want.
• Sexual abuse that includes unwanted touching and kissing, etc.

What If I Am in an Unhealthy or Abusive Relationship?

Some teens involved in unhealthy or abusive relationships think it's their fault. They may feel helpless to stop the abuse, or feel threatened or humiliated. You must understand that nothing you say or do gives anyone the right to abuse, intimidate, or hurt you.
 
Trust your gut feelings. If something feels uncomfortable or wrong with the relationship, then it is not healthy. You must end the relationship. Here are some tips for ending an unhealthy or abusive relationship: 

• Get help immediately. Don't keep your concerns to yourself.
• Break the silence. Talk to someone you trust, such as a parent, teacher, or a school counselor. Discuss how you have been treated. 

Source: www.teens.webmd.com/unhealth-abusive-relationship & https://www.loveisrespect.org/content/breaking-safely/ – you can call 866-331-9474. text or chat online.
   
If you or someone you know is being abused, seek help today. In an emergency, please dial 911.  For all other help, please call: Illinois Statewide Domestic Violence Helpline 877 TO END DV ( 877-863-6338), 877-863-6339 TTY. They can direct you to the best place for your individual situation.